Introduction to Sexual Fetishes; Shoe Fetish & Boot Fetish Anyone?

Introduction to Sexual Fetishes; Shoe Fetish & Boot Fetish Anyone?


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A Little Background

A fetish is a profound erotic desire for something; it could be a shoe, a boot, a breast or a material (nylon, leather, etc.). One could also have a fetish for an activity, such as watching, being watched, spanking or being spanked. Whatever the fetish object, the fetishist invests in it great power, sometimes great sexual power, sometimes great religious power, sometimes both.

In the classic sense, the sexual fetishist needs the fetish object - or at least, some kind of fantasy of the fetish object - in order to have sex. Psychologists call this a "paraphilia." The male needs the fetish object to get an erection. For the female, sexual arousal and fetishism exist but are always a little more mysterious and difficult to pinpoint. Let's just say the female fetishist needs the fetish object to enjoy sex, e.g. wearing or enjoying the look, touch and the feel of high heels or stiletto boots before and perhaps during sex encounters.

Fetishism is diagnosable as a psychosexual disorder, but only if the fetish excludes all other aspects of social life or causes significant distress for the person or has detrimental effects on other important areas of their life. Many people enjoy their fetish and choose to embrace their fetish and find ways to incorporate them into their life rather than seek treatment to attempt to be rid of them.

In a review of the files of all cases over a 20-year period which met criteria for non-transvestic fetishes in a teaching hospital, 48 cases were identified, and the objects of their fetishes included clothing (58.3%), footwear and leather (25%), rubber and rubber items (22.9%), body parts (14.6%), and soft materials and fabrics (6.3%). ( No data resource was provided )

Fetish Types

Essentially, there are four types of fetishes:

• Body Part Fetishists worship parts of the human body, like feet, breasts, buns, legs, hair, lips, bellybuttons, fingernails, sperm or female ejaculate. This if course is so much harder to detect because the fetishist may enjoy the body part on a partner and the partner may not be aware of the intense focus. Example; A lot of men and women have an over fascination for breasts. Is it a fetish? I think so.

• Object Fetishists prefer to be intimate mostly with their inanimate fetish objects. Unlike body parts, the objects can arouse them and be used for a sexual event. They may be shoes or boots that are used and well worn by a particular individual but they excite the fetishist even if they are not attached to actual human beings. For some standing in a closet surrounded by shoes and boots of their desire can be enough to arouse them. Although some fetish behavior in the fetishists mind may be considered to replace masturbation in their mind it is not masturbation but an intense sexual encounter. Of course in the extreme some fetishist are not social at all and choose to avoid any contact with partners avoiding the feelings and personalities that could get in the way of the fetishist's intense erotic adoration and enjoyment. Some common fetish objects include high heels, sexy heeled boots, nylon stockings, pantyhose, panties, bras, leather, rubber, latex, fur (real or fake), and even collars and hats.

• Action Fetishists love to make things happen. The voyeurs who fetishize watching are called "action fetishists," as are the exhibitionists who fetishize being watched.

• Finally, there are the Feeling or Conceptual Fetishists. Their feelings tend to be more socially acceptable. At least, they don’t get caught hoarding shoes. But they are potentially just as compulsive. Adrenaline Junkies fetishize danger. Hopeless Romantics fetishize love. Drama Queens fetishize suffering. Terrorists fetishize violence. Fascists fetishize power. Wasn't it Henry Kissinger who said "Power is the greatest aphrodisiac"?

Fetish gratification can be undertaken alone or with a partner, or even in a group situation. However, fetishism has traditionally been associated with a certain degree of furtiveness, and indeed many people with a fetish are very secretive or even repressed, and are afraid of indulging their fetish fantasies or behavior with others. This is one of the major reasons why fetishists habitually undertake their sexual satisfaction by themselves. However, today there are many internet web sites that focus on fetish behavior and as these increase fetish behavior is now in the open and many are finding it much more common an indulgence than thought. Some research has suggested that the population of men that indulge in varieties of interesting, if not fetishistic ways to get aroused, could include very high indeed. Many men, who may or may not be considered fetishists, get excited and aroused seeing a beautiful woman in close fitting designer knee high black leather stiletto high heeled zippered fashion boots made out of the finest and softest Italian leathers in the world.

Fetishists may interact with their fetish object in any number of ways. For example the shoe fetishist may obtain sexual pleasure by wearing them, looking them, smelling, licking, and touching them. However many allow themselves to get lost in romantic rapture and deep kiss and make love to the inner or outer surfaces of one shoe at an intense level similar to the heightened arousal and kissing of a partner during a sexual encounter. Then take the other shoe and may touch themselves but more than likely will use a little sexual lubricant and climb right on top and penetrate inside the second shoe fully culminating and completing a sexual intercourse encounter. Some may be aroused by their partner wearing a shoe or by using it to bring a partner to orgasm, many shoe fetishists collect the item or fetish art or film that features their fetish. Fetishists may fantasize about the object of their desire, dream about it and then make love to or with it.

A Few Examples

Shoe Fetish

A fetish that is almost as common as the foot fetish is that for shoes (usually stilettos or other kinds of high-heels) or for boots. It has been argued that many modern Western women have a fetish for shoes that may or may not have anything to do with sex! However many may have an underlying interest that may fit well with their male shoe fetish counterpart who would support and use their shoe indulgences to mutual advantage.

A woman with a true sexual shoe fetish may also derive intense pleasure from wearing beautiful shoes or collecting them, but they will also involve them in some kind of sexual context.

Many shoe fetishists (and most of them are men) start in their teens by becoming sexually aroused at the sight of female relatives - usually their mother or sisters - wearing sexy, feminine clothing including high heeled shoes. As there is an immensely strong taboo against sexual thoughts or behavior with your family members, the shoe fetishist quickly fixes his attention on the shoes, rather than the woman wearing them.

Male shoe fetishists often have absolutely no need of a female partner to become sexually stimulated. The presence of the shoes are sufficient for arousal and gratification; the sight, taste, smell and shape and feel of a shoe is enough to bring some shoe fetishists to climax, whereas others gain an intense release from rubbing their erect penis against the outside of a shoe, or more often they learn how to penetrate inside the shoe until they achieve orgasm. Some fetishists, that also have partners they are active with claim having sex with a well designed soft leather lined shoe or boot with a little lubricant can be a great alternative if your partner is less active and to them the penetration with the right shoe can feel almost the same as intercourse with a woman. They claim the this is one of the least talked about aspects and except for fetishists one of the incredible secrets of their fetish.

Some men who have a shoe fetish may also have a foot and leg fetish and enjoy having sex with women who wear beautiful shoes, or may at some point after their partner is satisfied engage directly with the shoes, they may fondle, kiss, smell or lick the shoes on her feet gazing admiringly upon them while she masturbates him to ejaculation. Some with an open minded partner may get aroused by the shoes and then their partner may take them off and use the shoes to bring him to climax.

Some men derive their sensual pleasure from wearing women's shoes themselves, and today there are plenty of high quality women's shoes and boots in men's sizes are available to cater for those tastes. Even Jimmy Choo’s knee high black leather zippered three inch heeled Peony boot can be bought in size 43 (womens U.S. +/-12) which could easily fit many men. Stuart Weitzman also makes a size 12. There is also a French boot maker, Jean Gaborit, who makes very nice looking erotic thigh high quality women’s boots in sizes that go far beyond 43.

Foot Fetish

One of the most common fetishes is for the human foot. Foot fetishism (sometimes referred to as Foot Worship) may be expressed by taking the role of either the 'top' or the 'bottom'. In this instance the top is the one whose feet are worshipped, and they may have this type of foot fetish or they may merely be participating in order to please their partner. If they are the partner with the fetish, it may be the act of having their feet attended to that excites them. Alternatively, they may be aroused by feet, and are wildly excited by receiving a 'foot job', the foot fetishist's equivalent to a hand job, where feet are used to stimulate the genitals.

The bottom with a foot fetish gets sexual gratification by 'worshipping' the top's feet, which may take the form of washing, kissing, licking, massaging, smelling, applying oils or lotions, or even performing a full pedicure. Foot worship may also be demanded of bottoms as part of a dominance and submission scene, whether the bottom has a foot fetish or not.

There is a considerable grey area where fetishism and 'ordinary' sexual activity and desire mingle. A man who enjoys the sensation of his girlfriend's "stockinged" foot rubbing on his testicles and penis is not necessarily a foot fetishist - at least not unless he can't achieve orgasm any other way, or feels somehow unsatisfied by orgasms achieved without this stimulus.