SHOE FETISH - SHOE SEX; CASE NUMBER 12 Weird Sex Stoned
This is a very unusual article that came to me titled Weird Sex Stoned from an online shoe fetishist. It allows us to consider and look at the shoe from the perspective of a person using a mild drug like marijuana once again. This, after reading it, appears to be a fairly experienced shoe fetishist who is not afraid to share his perspective with the world. It comes across as fairly realistic and I would say it is probably a very accurate account of how this fetishists mind works and locks in on the sexuality of the shoes around him. It is quite clear, that the shoe fetishists mind works very much like the attraction of heterosexual or homosexual sexuality. The person is attracted, focuses their attention, does a kind of mating ritual getting closer to the pair of choice, than gets aroused and begins and then consummates his affair with great gusto and passion.
Here is a story as it was sent to me over the internet by that shoe fetishist I had communicated with on the ASFF shoe fetish site. The site used to be run by George Gerez. He did not write this case. Quite frankly the person who wrote this did not leave his name but did leave their e-mail address: insides...@aol.com.
I am sitting here in my T-shirt and shorts. I was doing a few odds and ends, and I might add I was just a bit stoned. So I decided to go into our bedroom to consider what needed to be done next. I walked into our closet and it was a mess so I decided to clan it up a bit. I looked at her side finding it lined with very modern and fashionable clothing and on the floor were stacks of her high quality leather shoes and boots all strewn about. So I decided to straighten them up. We had just been together a short time and I hadn’t done this yet. As I began to straighten up a couple of pairs caught my attention.
Perhaps what surprised me was, this is the first time I had been near her shoes a bit stoned, I was finding that these shoes were clearly just as hot, erotic, and sexy off of her as on her and perhaps being stoned just took on a more narrow heightened focus. If you ever smoked marijuana you already know what I mean, if you have not you probably won’t understand. My focus was becoming very interesting. I decide to pick up a couple of the more erotic pairs and sat there looking at them.
I've got to get back to my other tasks. I have some things I need to do. So, I decided to place the shoes and boots right next to me and to the side so that I can glance at them and look at the fashion lines of the shoes while I worked to organize the closet. I glanced at the floor next to the me and to my surprise she had taken off and left her bright red kidskin stiletto heeled knee high zippered leather boots there. Wow a bonus,,, I picked them up and placed them next to me as well.
As I sat there I was looking through the closet and found some of the comments from the alt.sex.fetish.feet newsgroup I had printed out. I noticed a few comments in some threads about others being excited by women’s feet and shoes. I already had a flaming shoe fetish but being newly together I left it on the side for a while. But now, here alone? So I glanced over at the shoes and imagined her walking toward me in them and at that point, and not to my surprise, my member started to slowly pulse and enlarge.
I wasn't sure what would happen next but I knew that I had was going to write and document what I felt and share my experience with other who share my fetish.
Being a bit stoned and certainly a bit horny I decided, what the heck no one is home and I was curious, I'll try to wear a pair of these shoes. I put on a pair of her very thin hose. They were certainly a bit tight she is smaller than I am. Then I tried on the shoes. They were tight, but I forced myself in, they barely fit. There they were on my feet a pair of very expensive $300 pair of Giorgio Armani 3" inch high heeled black kidskin leather "T" straps in size 10 1/2. Not the heavy kind but a very gentle and graceful thin "T" with very soft leather. I expect you might see these high heels on a Vogue model. They felt good on and looking at them in the mirror across the room made me a bit more excited. They were so tight I could clearly see the outline of my toes in the black leather of the shoe.
At that point I was thinking that probably every fetishist should have a mirror so they can look into it if they ever decide to try things on. My toes showed through the leather even a bit more than hers would because of the pressure and my larger foot size. I could see the curve of my arch in the 3" high heel. They were certainly a hot pair of shoes. Looking at the shoes in the mirror I could imagine her wearing them and moving in them across the room.
But wait a minute, as I glanced back I had her pair of red boots next to me as well. For a moment, being stoned, I forgot about the T straps. When I took a close look at these shoes the interesting thing about these "red boots" is that the pointed toe area is a bit longer than usual for a "boot". As I looked inside the boot it was lined with soft kidskin leather as I glanced at the extended toe area my mind wandered in a kind of kinky fantasy deep down into the shoe. Being stoned sometimes has its advantages, especially with a shoe fetish. After a bit of focusing down into the depths of her boot. I realized that I could probably slide my hand down along the inner arch and into the flesh colored toe area inside of the shoe. So I did, it felt smooth and silky to my hand I could feel the toe bumps worn inside the boot. My member was getting harder and pushing against my pants and it pushed out the hole in my shorts. So I naturally just moved the booted hand to my penis and pushed it down and back in as us guys sometimes do when we have an unexpected rising we don’t quite want. The soft leather made contact with my penis and it felt like electricity and I gently stroked it with my booted hand and it easily grew another inch.
As I glanced at the toe of the boot and the well worn lines made in the leather from her foot I continued to throb and get harder. I was almost driven by passion to slide them off of my hand and take a closer look at the wear lines in the shoe.
Instead I decide to delay as I moved my feet in the T straps. My focus shifted again, I could feel my toes move inside of the shoe and it felt wonderful against the leather surface of the shoe. Perhaps my foot pulsing in the leather was a premonition of things to come.
I tried to keep focused on cleaning the closet but being a bit stoned the focus shifted to the curves in the very stylish black leather shoe that I also had next to me once again caught my attention. This pair has a nice two inch chunky heel and a great opening down into the toe area. On the outside of this shapely and stylish mule, kind of a clog but not quite as large looking as a standard clog. This clog had the softest of wear lines in the leather that attracted my attention. I am interrupted by an urge to get closer to the shoe as I smell the aroma of the leather mixed with her feet. I decide to stop cleaning for just a moment as the aroma of her feet mixed with leather acts as a pheromone and excites me even more. I slid the shoe closer to my face as the urge to kiss the leather took me over. First I am attracted to the outside of the shoe and then with more excitement toward the opening of the shoe as I see the outline of her foot impressed into the worn leather lining.
I force myself to stop as I first felt and then glanced at the red fashion boot that I still had my hand and arm slid into. For a moment as my hand moved I fantasized her foot moving in the boot over the toe bumps and my attention shifted once again.
I stopped again as I imagine her sliding her foot gently into and then out of the one of those very sexy high heeled red leather fashion boots that she loved to wear. I fantasized her painted red toes as she slid her foot back into the boot and then I felt her command me to bring the boot to my lips and kiss one of the shoes first gently and then she said I know you love it kiss it more passionately.
I couldn't resist as I slowly removed the red boot from my arm and began to kiss it gently and then more passionately. I was becoming so aroused that I found myself deep kissing the toe of the shoe and sucking it into my mouth. I imagined her foot still inside the soft warm erotic boot as I realize that I am now making love to a shoe. I had imagined that I had just slid it off of her foot.
I realized that she had worn them yesterday. I didn't even care, it was so wonderful that I couldn't, no I didn't want to stop.
At that point my attention shifted as I began to kiss the flesh tone inner lining of the red zippered thigh high boot.
The urge and my erection was so strong I was now forced to lower my underwear to lighten the pressure of the erection tight against the cloth. I then gently placed a drop of gel on the tip of my member and then slid the soft red leather boot gently over my throbbing penis inserting my member deep down the flesh toned lining into the erotic inside of the sensational soft leather shoe. I could feel the warmth of the boot that I just slid it off. Combined with the soft leather walls surrounding my penis. Oh my goodness it felt so good I was beyond excited. The walls of the creased leather shaped by her foot caressed my penis in a way that it almost felt like I was inside of her.
As my penis moved gently over the toe bumps inside of her boot it felt like electricity. This felt so much better than I expected, all so soft all so surrounding as the sides of the red boot gently caressing my erect member. I began to quickly move the boot up and down over my penis thrusting it deeper into the inner sole. I could see the outline of my penis move inside the shoe touching the inside of the toe bumps worn into the leather.
I then saw the other soft boot nearby. I gently reached for it and began to kiss the other shoe. I then open the inside of her boot moving my face gently into the shoe as I kiss and fondle it my penis continues to throb in and out of your boot in the place of her foot.
The fantasy is so kinky and just so much fun. Being high my passion focuses on the boot and I have all but forgotten about your feet ever being inside. I am surprised to discover that with all of my passion I find I am making love to these very well worn erotic red high heeled zippered kid skin red leather boots. I realize I am simply making it with the boots.
The urge and passion is so strong that I now must lay on the floor. As I try to open the shoe to continue to kiss and smell the inside, I find I am laying on top of the opened boot with my penis penetrating even deeper inside the boot as if I were now on top of a woman having sex with her. With the friction of the carpet holding the opened boot in place I find I no longer need my hands and it's so much easier to move in and out of the toe area of the shoe just as if I were doing a woman.
In this new position, now the fantasy is really beginning to blow me away. Now I realize I am deeply and passionately kissing and making love to both erotic boots on the floor as the odor of the worn leather electrifies my body. It is clear to me that I am excited by the boots alone. The thought of my partner is no where to be found. To my surprise the boot itself was a turn on and I was passionately screwing her right boot as I deeply kissed, fondled, and made love to her left boot.
My body began to pick up speed automatically, as I pump in and out, in and out, in and out and I know that I can no longer hold it. It was getting close as my mind reeled from the excitement.
This is so amazing, why didn't I think of doing this before? God I love this, I love this.
Oh my, being stoned I begin to understand how a shoe could feel even better than the inside of a woman. As I moved move in and out, deeper and deeper into the boot. It was so sensitive I could feel every leather wear line gently caress my member that is now riding deep inside the toe of the boot.
I continued to kiss the erotic toe lines on the outside of the red high heeled boot with such passion as I buried my head back inside of the boot and surrounded my face with the soft leather and the inside smell of the boot.
My body began to shiver and pulse with my first orgasm inside of this wonderful virgin soft leather red boot. It feels so good as I moan with passion as I try to hold back but begin to let go with continuous explosions inside of the tip of the boot. I couldn't stop pulsing, it was the most fantastic and satisfying orgasm I had ever had.
As I calmed down with my penis sensitive I continued to feel the walls of the soft well worn leather boot as the pulses continue. I am so aroused my body becomes tingly with sensations as I continue to move inside of the shoe and kiss the inner sole of the other boot as if I were kissing her.
As the explosion subsides, for a brief moment I consider what I am doing, I couldn’t believe it. I was having sexual intercourse with a very sexy and erotic boot. A place where feet live and walk. As I consider this I keep exploding even more into the depth of her shoe as I consider the erotic curves of the boot. So sensuous, so delicious. It felt so good I didn't care that I was enjoying passionate lust with her shoes.
All to soon, my body eases and I relax. What a great experience that was, all so satisfying. I am once again surprised that it felt so much like the inside of a vagina as the walls of the leather gently caressed and surrounded me as I moved in and out.
In my lifetime I never thought it would be important and wonderful to be part of such a select group of people who have developed a shoe fetish. To know what I know. To feel what I feel can not be gained by those who have never been able to become excited by or do a sensuous and erotic well worn shoe. I knew the secret to being one of the world’s best women's shoe designers. I knew why women were so attracted to buying shoes and never even consciously understood what they were about.
Somewhere down deep, I am certain they really do understand the attraction, the sexuality, the erotic power, and the impact of a well turned designer shoe. In time I learned through penetrating experiences which shoes look and feel great and which ones just look great, and which ones not only look great but feel great as well.
Tuesday, January 12, 2010
SHOE FETISH -- Do you have a real shoe fetish?
SHOE FETISH -- Do you have a real shoe fetish?
How can you tell if you have a real SHOE FETISH? If you look at the pair of used women's (or men’s, if you prefer) shoes like the well worn Jimmy Choo boots I bought from Darla next to the word shoe fetish above, or the larger picture in the files, and you find them erotic, sexy, and you feel a reaction and perhaps a strong desire need and want them. -- Well consider it possible that you may have a SHOE FETISH!
Whether you are straight, gay, lesbian, TS, or just love lots of sex toys and the many forms of sex play and masturbation and you find all acceptable as much of modern society does today, and now you are able to add to that list the gentle deviations – e.g. -shoe and boot fetish play. Then perhaps, we are for you ( I do concede there are many exceptions in "ALL" societies where the public view is narrow. Many peoples have narrow religious & social public views of their own sexuality. Many cultures allow no public deviation from the simple missionary position, anything else is a violation of their cultural & public codes & policy. I respect and consider their view to be their own, even though I do not concur. In my view it is a personal psychological handicap to be closed minded as we walk through life. What many of those same people practice behind closed doors may be variations to their own cultural codes & policies yet it may also be the simple reality, "humans are sexual". If your sex life doesn’t hurt anyone, if it is not illegal, and you don't force it on anyone clearly it should be just fine with just about everyone what you decide to do in your own private life behind your own closed doors, or what you decide to share in like minded places like this. After all, I am not forcing this WEB page on anyone, and certainly I would never send a copy to those who don't share an open exploratory view of their own sexuality. To get to this note you had to not only search it out as a Newsgroup, you had the opportunbity to review, read, and to get past the disclaimers. I call that clearly informed consent & to open any of these materials as being done with free will and with free choice. )
How can you tell if you have a real SHOE FETISH? If you look at the pair of used women's (or men’s, if you prefer) shoes like the well worn Jimmy Choo boots I bought from Darla next to the word shoe fetish above, or the larger picture in the files, and you find them erotic, sexy, and you feel a reaction and perhaps a strong desire need and want them. -- Well consider it possible that you may have a SHOE FETISH!
Whether you are straight, gay, lesbian, TS, or just love lots of sex toys and the many forms of sex play and masturbation and you find all acceptable as much of modern society does today, and now you are able to add to that list the gentle deviations – e.g. -shoe and boot fetish play. Then perhaps, we are for you ( I do concede there are many exceptions in "ALL" societies where the public view is narrow. Many peoples have narrow religious & social public views of their own sexuality. Many cultures allow no public deviation from the simple missionary position, anything else is a violation of their cultural & public codes & policy. I respect and consider their view to be their own, even though I do not concur. In my view it is a personal psychological handicap to be closed minded as we walk through life. What many of those same people practice behind closed doors may be variations to their own cultural codes & policies yet it may also be the simple reality, "humans are sexual". If your sex life doesn’t hurt anyone, if it is not illegal, and you don't force it on anyone clearly it should be just fine with just about everyone what you decide to do in your own private life behind your own closed doors, or what you decide to share in like minded places like this. After all, I am not forcing this WEB page on anyone, and certainly I would never send a copy to those who don't share an open exploratory view of their own sexuality. To get to this note you had to not only search it out as a Newsgroup, you had the opportunbity to review, read, and to get past the disclaimers. I call that clearly informed consent & to open any of these materials as being done with free will and with free choice. )
Monday, January 11, 2010
"SHOE FETISH" --- does not in any way equal ---"SHOE SHOPPING FETISH."
Clearly I am out to try to change the way the public describes a woman's shoe shopping as her having a shoe fetish.
This statement regarding shopping is clearly nonsense and they would not use the term if they actually understood what having a shoe fetish really meant. Although, from my research, I have found evidence that some women may actually have a lesbian tendency and perhaps some form of what we might consider a shoe fetish. However, I suspect most who use the term do not have the real deal and use it improperly.
"SHOE FETISH"
--- does not in any way equal ---
"SHOE SHOPPING FETISH."
In short --- It does mean sexual arousal to shoes and shoe related sexual activities. Are shoe shopping women sexually aroused by their activity? Perhaps? Perhaps not? Or is it an unreported Victoria's Secret type passion that remains in their closet?
This statement regarding shopping is clearly nonsense and they would not use the term if they actually understood what having a shoe fetish really meant. Although, from my research, I have found evidence that some women may actually have a lesbian tendency and perhaps some form of what we might consider a shoe fetish. However, I suspect most who use the term do not have the real deal and use it improperly.
"SHOE FETISH"
--- does not in any way equal ---
"SHOE SHOPPING FETISH."
In short --- It does mean sexual arousal to shoes and shoe related sexual activities. Are shoe shopping women sexually aroused by their activity? Perhaps? Perhaps not? Or is it an unreported Victoria's Secret type passion that remains in their closet?
Sunday, January 10, 2010
Introduction to Sexual Fetishes; Shoe Fetish & Boot Fetish Anyone?
Introduction to Sexual Fetishes; Shoe Fetish & Boot Fetish Anyone?
From the open WEB – copyright unknown not stated.
A Little Background
A fetish is a profound erotic desire for something; it could be a shoe, a boot, a breast or a material (nylon, leather, etc.). One could also have a fetish for an activity, such as watching, being watched, spanking or being spanked. Whatever the fetish object, the fetishist invests in it great power, sometimes great sexual power, sometimes great religious power, sometimes both.
In the classic sense, the sexual fetishist needs the fetish object - or at least, some kind of fantasy of the fetish object - in order to have sex. Psychologists call this a "paraphilia." The male needs the fetish object to get an erection. For the female, sexual arousal and fetishism exist but are always a little more mysterious and difficult to pinpoint. Let's just say the female fetishist needs the fetish object to enjoy sex, e.g. wearing or enjoying the look, touch and the feel of high heels or stiletto boots before and perhaps during sex encounters.
Fetishism is diagnosable as a psychosexual disorder, but only if the fetish excludes all other aspects of social life or causes significant distress for the person or has detrimental effects on other important areas of their life. Many people enjoy their fetish and choose to embrace their fetish and find ways to incorporate them into their life rather than seek treatment to attempt to be rid of them.
In a review of the files of all cases over a 20-year period which met criteria for non-transvestic fetishes in a teaching hospital, 48 cases were identified, and the objects of their fetishes included clothing (58.3%), footwear and leather (25%), rubber and rubber items (22.9%), body parts (14.6%), and soft materials and fabrics (6.3%). ( No data resource was provided )
Fetish Types
Essentially, there are four types of fetishes:
• Body Part Fetishists worship parts of the human body, like feet, breasts, buns, legs, hair, lips, bellybuttons, fingernails, sperm or female ejaculate. This if course is so much harder to detect because the fetishist may enjoy the body part on a partner and the partner may not be aware of the intense focus. Example; A lot of men and women have an over fascination for breasts. Is it a fetish? I think so.
• Object Fetishists prefer to be intimate mostly with their inanimate fetish objects. Unlike body parts, the objects can arouse them and be used for a sexual event. They may be shoes or boots that are used and well worn by a particular individual but they excite the fetishist even if they are not attached to actual human beings. For some standing in a closet surrounded by shoes and boots of their desire can be enough to arouse them. Although some fetish behavior in the fetishists mind may be considered to replace masturbation in their mind it is not masturbation but an intense sexual encounter. Of course in the extreme some fetishist are not social at all and choose to avoid any contact with partners avoiding the feelings and personalities that could get in the way of the fetishist's intense erotic adoration and enjoyment. Some common fetish objects include high heels, sexy heeled boots, nylon stockings, pantyhose, panties, bras, leather, rubber, latex, fur (real or fake), and even collars and hats.
• Action Fetishists love to make things happen. The voyeurs who fetishize watching are called "action fetishists," as are the exhibitionists who fetishize being watched.
• Finally, there are the Feeling or Conceptual Fetishists. Their feelings tend to be more socially acceptable. At least, they don’t get caught hoarding shoes. But they are potentially just as compulsive. Adrenaline Junkies fetishize danger. Hopeless Romantics fetishize love. Drama Queens fetishize suffering. Terrorists fetishize violence. Fascists fetishize power. Wasn't it Henry Kissinger who said "Power is the greatest aphrodisiac"?
Fetish gratification can be undertaken alone or with a partner, or even in a group situation. However, fetishism has traditionally been associated with a certain degree of furtiveness, and indeed many people with a fetish are very secretive or even repressed, and are afraid of indulging their fetish fantasies or behavior with others. This is one of the major reasons why fetishists habitually undertake their sexual satisfaction by themselves. However, today there are many internet web sites that focus on fetish behavior and as these increase fetish behavior is now in the open and many are finding it much more common an indulgence than thought. Some research has suggested that the population of men that indulge in varieties of interesting, if not fetishistic ways to get aroused, could include very high indeed. Many men, who may or may not be considered fetishists, get excited and aroused seeing a beautiful woman in close fitting designer knee high black leather stiletto high heeled zippered fashion boots made out of the finest and softest Italian leathers in the world.
Fetishists may interact with their fetish object in any number of ways. For example the shoe fetishist may obtain sexual pleasure by wearing them, looking them, smelling, licking, and touching them. However many allow themselves to get lost in romantic rapture and deep kiss and make love to the inner or outer surfaces of one shoe at an intense level similar to the heightened arousal and kissing of a partner during a sexual encounter. Then take the other shoe and may touch themselves but more than likely will use a little sexual lubricant and climb right on top and penetrate inside the second shoe fully culminating and completing a sexual intercourse encounter. Some may be aroused by their partner wearing a shoe or by using it to bring a partner to orgasm, many shoe fetishists collect the item or fetish art or film that features their fetish. Fetishists may fantasize about the object of their desire, dream about it and then make love to or with it.
A Few Examples
Shoe Fetish
A fetish that is almost as common as the foot fetish is that for shoes (usually stilettos or other kinds of high-heels) or for boots. It has been argued that many modern Western women have a fetish for shoes that may or may not have anything to do with sex! However many may have an underlying interest that may fit well with their male shoe fetish counterpart who would support and use their shoe indulgences to mutual advantage.
A woman with a true sexual shoe fetish may also derive intense pleasure from wearing beautiful shoes or collecting them, but they will also involve them in some kind of sexual context.
Many shoe fetishists (and most of them are men) start in their teens by becoming sexually aroused at the sight of female relatives - usually their mother or sisters - wearing sexy, feminine clothing including high heeled shoes. As there is an immensely strong taboo against sexual thoughts or behavior with your family members, the shoe fetishist quickly fixes his attention on the shoes, rather than the woman wearing them.
Male shoe fetishists often have absolutely no need of a female partner to become sexually stimulated. The presence of the shoes are sufficient for arousal and gratification; the sight, taste, smell and shape and feel of a shoe is enough to bring some shoe fetishists to climax, whereas others gain an intense release from rubbing their erect penis against the outside of a shoe, or more often they learn how to penetrate inside the shoe until they achieve orgasm. Some fetishists, that also have partners they are active with claim having sex with a well designed soft leather lined shoe or boot with a little lubricant can be a great alternative if your partner is less active and to them the penetration with the right shoe can feel almost the same as intercourse with a woman. They claim the this is one of the least talked about aspects and except for fetishists one of the incredible secrets of their fetish.
Some men who have a shoe fetish may also have a foot and leg fetish and enjoy having sex with women who wear beautiful shoes, or may at some point after their partner is satisfied engage directly with the shoes, they may fondle, kiss, smell or lick the shoes on her feet gazing admiringly upon them while she masturbates him to ejaculation. Some with an open minded partner may get aroused by the shoes and then their partner may take them off and use the shoes to bring him to climax.
Some men derive their sensual pleasure from wearing women's shoes themselves, and today there are plenty of high quality women's shoes and boots in men's sizes are available to cater for those tastes. Even Jimmy Choo’s knee high black leather zippered three inch heeled Peony boot can be bought in size 43 (womens U.S. +/-12) which could easily fit many men. Stuart Weitzman also makes a size 12. There is also a French boot maker, Jean Gaborit, who makes very nice looking erotic thigh high quality women’s boots in sizes that go far beyond 43.
Foot Fetish
One of the most common fetishes is for the human foot. Foot fetishism (sometimes referred to as Foot Worship) may be expressed by taking the role of either the 'top' or the 'bottom'. In this instance the top is the one whose feet are worshipped, and they may have this type of foot fetish or they may merely be participating in order to please their partner. If they are the partner with the fetish, it may be the act of having their feet attended to that excites them. Alternatively, they may be aroused by feet, and are wildly excited by receiving a 'foot job', the foot fetishist's equivalent to a hand job, where feet are used to stimulate the genitals.
The bottom with a foot fetish gets sexual gratification by 'worshipping' the top's feet, which may take the form of washing, kissing, licking, massaging, smelling, applying oils or lotions, or even performing a full pedicure. Foot worship may also be demanded of bottoms as part of a dominance and submission scene, whether the bottom has a foot fetish or not.
There is a considerable grey area where fetishism and 'ordinary' sexual activity and desire mingle. A man who enjoys the sensation of his girlfriend's "stockinged" foot rubbing on his testicles and penis is not necessarily a foot fetishist - at least not unless he can't achieve orgasm any other way, or feels somehow unsatisfied by orgasms achieved without this stimulus.
From the open WEB – copyright unknown not stated.
A Little Background
A fetish is a profound erotic desire for something; it could be a shoe, a boot, a breast or a material (nylon, leather, etc.). One could also have a fetish for an activity, such as watching, being watched, spanking or being spanked. Whatever the fetish object, the fetishist invests in it great power, sometimes great sexual power, sometimes great religious power, sometimes both.
In the classic sense, the sexual fetishist needs the fetish object - or at least, some kind of fantasy of the fetish object - in order to have sex. Psychologists call this a "paraphilia." The male needs the fetish object to get an erection. For the female, sexual arousal and fetishism exist but are always a little more mysterious and difficult to pinpoint. Let's just say the female fetishist needs the fetish object to enjoy sex, e.g. wearing or enjoying the look, touch and the feel of high heels or stiletto boots before and perhaps during sex encounters.
Fetishism is diagnosable as a psychosexual disorder, but only if the fetish excludes all other aspects of social life or causes significant distress for the person or has detrimental effects on other important areas of their life. Many people enjoy their fetish and choose to embrace their fetish and find ways to incorporate them into their life rather than seek treatment to attempt to be rid of them.
In a review of the files of all cases over a 20-year period which met criteria for non-transvestic fetishes in a teaching hospital, 48 cases were identified, and the objects of their fetishes included clothing (58.3%), footwear and leather (25%), rubber and rubber items (22.9%), body parts (14.6%), and soft materials and fabrics (6.3%). ( No data resource was provided )
Fetish Types
Essentially, there are four types of fetishes:
• Body Part Fetishists worship parts of the human body, like feet, breasts, buns, legs, hair, lips, bellybuttons, fingernails, sperm or female ejaculate. This if course is so much harder to detect because the fetishist may enjoy the body part on a partner and the partner may not be aware of the intense focus. Example; A lot of men and women have an over fascination for breasts. Is it a fetish? I think so.
• Object Fetishists prefer to be intimate mostly with their inanimate fetish objects. Unlike body parts, the objects can arouse them and be used for a sexual event. They may be shoes or boots that are used and well worn by a particular individual but they excite the fetishist even if they are not attached to actual human beings. For some standing in a closet surrounded by shoes and boots of their desire can be enough to arouse them. Although some fetish behavior in the fetishists mind may be considered to replace masturbation in their mind it is not masturbation but an intense sexual encounter. Of course in the extreme some fetishist are not social at all and choose to avoid any contact with partners avoiding the feelings and personalities that could get in the way of the fetishist's intense erotic adoration and enjoyment. Some common fetish objects include high heels, sexy heeled boots, nylon stockings, pantyhose, panties, bras, leather, rubber, latex, fur (real or fake), and even collars and hats.
• Action Fetishists love to make things happen. The voyeurs who fetishize watching are called "action fetishists," as are the exhibitionists who fetishize being watched.
• Finally, there are the Feeling or Conceptual Fetishists. Their feelings tend to be more socially acceptable. At least, they don’t get caught hoarding shoes. But they are potentially just as compulsive. Adrenaline Junkies fetishize danger. Hopeless Romantics fetishize love. Drama Queens fetishize suffering. Terrorists fetishize violence. Fascists fetishize power. Wasn't it Henry Kissinger who said "Power is the greatest aphrodisiac"?
Fetish gratification can be undertaken alone or with a partner, or even in a group situation. However, fetishism has traditionally been associated with a certain degree of furtiveness, and indeed many people with a fetish are very secretive or even repressed, and are afraid of indulging their fetish fantasies or behavior with others. This is one of the major reasons why fetishists habitually undertake their sexual satisfaction by themselves. However, today there are many internet web sites that focus on fetish behavior and as these increase fetish behavior is now in the open and many are finding it much more common an indulgence than thought. Some research has suggested that the population of men that indulge in varieties of interesting, if not fetishistic ways to get aroused, could include very high indeed. Many men, who may or may not be considered fetishists, get excited and aroused seeing a beautiful woman in close fitting designer knee high black leather stiletto high heeled zippered fashion boots made out of the finest and softest Italian leathers in the world.
Fetishists may interact with their fetish object in any number of ways. For example the shoe fetishist may obtain sexual pleasure by wearing them, looking them, smelling, licking, and touching them. However many allow themselves to get lost in romantic rapture and deep kiss and make love to the inner or outer surfaces of one shoe at an intense level similar to the heightened arousal and kissing of a partner during a sexual encounter. Then take the other shoe and may touch themselves but more than likely will use a little sexual lubricant and climb right on top and penetrate inside the second shoe fully culminating and completing a sexual intercourse encounter. Some may be aroused by their partner wearing a shoe or by using it to bring a partner to orgasm, many shoe fetishists collect the item or fetish art or film that features their fetish. Fetishists may fantasize about the object of their desire, dream about it and then make love to or with it.
A Few Examples
Shoe Fetish
A fetish that is almost as common as the foot fetish is that for shoes (usually stilettos or other kinds of high-heels) or for boots. It has been argued that many modern Western women have a fetish for shoes that may or may not have anything to do with sex! However many may have an underlying interest that may fit well with their male shoe fetish counterpart who would support and use their shoe indulgences to mutual advantage.
A woman with a true sexual shoe fetish may also derive intense pleasure from wearing beautiful shoes or collecting them, but they will also involve them in some kind of sexual context.
Many shoe fetishists (and most of them are men) start in their teens by becoming sexually aroused at the sight of female relatives - usually their mother or sisters - wearing sexy, feminine clothing including high heeled shoes. As there is an immensely strong taboo against sexual thoughts or behavior with your family members, the shoe fetishist quickly fixes his attention on the shoes, rather than the woman wearing them.
Male shoe fetishists often have absolutely no need of a female partner to become sexually stimulated. The presence of the shoes are sufficient for arousal and gratification; the sight, taste, smell and shape and feel of a shoe is enough to bring some shoe fetishists to climax, whereas others gain an intense release from rubbing their erect penis against the outside of a shoe, or more often they learn how to penetrate inside the shoe until they achieve orgasm. Some fetishists, that also have partners they are active with claim having sex with a well designed soft leather lined shoe or boot with a little lubricant can be a great alternative if your partner is less active and to them the penetration with the right shoe can feel almost the same as intercourse with a woman. They claim the this is one of the least talked about aspects and except for fetishists one of the incredible secrets of their fetish.
Some men who have a shoe fetish may also have a foot and leg fetish and enjoy having sex with women who wear beautiful shoes, or may at some point after their partner is satisfied engage directly with the shoes, they may fondle, kiss, smell or lick the shoes on her feet gazing admiringly upon them while she masturbates him to ejaculation. Some with an open minded partner may get aroused by the shoes and then their partner may take them off and use the shoes to bring him to climax.
Some men derive their sensual pleasure from wearing women's shoes themselves, and today there are plenty of high quality women's shoes and boots in men's sizes are available to cater for those tastes. Even Jimmy Choo’s knee high black leather zippered three inch heeled Peony boot can be bought in size 43 (womens U.S. +/-12) which could easily fit many men. Stuart Weitzman also makes a size 12. There is also a French boot maker, Jean Gaborit, who makes very nice looking erotic thigh high quality women’s boots in sizes that go far beyond 43.
Foot Fetish
One of the most common fetishes is for the human foot. Foot fetishism (sometimes referred to as Foot Worship) may be expressed by taking the role of either the 'top' or the 'bottom'. In this instance the top is the one whose feet are worshipped, and they may have this type of foot fetish or they may merely be participating in order to please their partner. If they are the partner with the fetish, it may be the act of having their feet attended to that excites them. Alternatively, they may be aroused by feet, and are wildly excited by receiving a 'foot job', the foot fetishist's equivalent to a hand job, where feet are used to stimulate the genitals.
The bottom with a foot fetish gets sexual gratification by 'worshipping' the top's feet, which may take the form of washing, kissing, licking, massaging, smelling, applying oils or lotions, or even performing a full pedicure. Foot worship may also be demanded of bottoms as part of a dominance and submission scene, whether the bottom has a foot fetish or not.
There is a considerable grey area where fetishism and 'ordinary' sexual activity and desire mingle. A man who enjoys the sensation of his girlfriend's "stockinged" foot rubbing on his testicles and penis is not necessarily a foot fetishist - at least not unless he can't achieve orgasm any other way, or feels somehow unsatisfied by orgasms achieved without this stimulus.
Monday, January 4, 2010
Shoe fetish, boot fetish partners --- This is only an issue if you make it one
Shoe fetish, boot fetish partners --- This is only an issue if you make it one
FALSE STATEMENT ABOUT SHOE FETISHES; Someone once said shoe fetishists are always alone? Really, NONSENSE !!! --- – SOME ARE because they are socially lacking. Most of us with any social skills and a sharing brain are not !!! – Not only that speaking for myself generally sexual activity and foreplay can last for hours, women love that !!! Most of us who want to have a lot of fun and let our partners have a lot of fun as well know how to share and provide for a partners needs, first so a real relationship does exist. I have been with my partner with my fetish in the open for what seems to be more than four score and seven years. …. OK, over 30 years. Those who play well together will generally stay together.
FALSE STATEMENT ABOUT SHOE FETISHES; Someone once said shoe fetishists are always alone? Really, NONSENSE !!! --- – SOME ARE because they are socially lacking. Most of us with any social skills and a sharing brain are not !!! – Not only that speaking for myself generally sexual activity and foreplay can last for hours, women love that !!! Most of us who want to have a lot of fun and let our partners have a lot of fun as well know how to share and provide for a partners needs, first so a real relationship does exist. I have been with my partner with my fetish in the open for what seems to be more than four score and seven years. …. OK, over 30 years. Those who play well together will generally stay together.
Latest Find for my BOOT FETISH - Stuart Weitzman knee highs in size 12 !!!
Latest Find for my BOOT FETISH - Used Stuart Weitzman knee highs in size 12 !!!
What a find!!! What fun !!!
If you share my shoe fetish you already know how wonderful it is to find theperfect pair of boots. --- I just bought a nicely fitting pair of Size 12 Stuart Weitzman Knee high black leather used zippered boots with a 3 inch heel - an incredible find and what incredible fun and they fit perfectly !!!
If you have a shoe fetish and any imagination at all you already know I have been wearing them for hours and just like a little kid I just can’t wait to wear them to bed.
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What a find!!! What fun !!!
If you share my shoe fetish you already know how wonderful it is to find the
If you have a shoe fetish and any imagination at all you already know I have been wearing them for hours and just like a little kid I just can’t wait to wear them to bed.
TV
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